Changes and Adapting

First and foremost, I'm a "routine" guy. I like my daily schedule and how I get thru the day. I will say that these routines will actually have you missing out on fun too. Let me explain....

The weekends come and go so fast, and having my kids every other weekend, I make my plans accordingly. If you truly want to spend time with someone or just enjoy your time a little more, you have to make an effort to get out during the week. I've tried several ways to get thru the week, like living for the weekend. When you do that, you wake up one day and realize it's almost October. When you look back, what do you have to show for it but memories of work and sleep. I've lived that way most of this year and I'm really not happy with the results. 

Once I really thought about it, I've been slowing things down and tried enjoying each day. Time as seemed to slow. The reason I bring this up is because just like a routine, being comfortable with your every day life can come back to haunt you. 

In my line of work, there is a lot of change over. People leave cause they can't handle the stress and pressure. We also have a lot of new projects so people get moved around. I'm on my third boss this year and I've also been promoted so things are changing a lot. Im so happy that I am able to adapt and thrive with changes. It makes each day thrilling and you are always getting to prove yourself. I think having a career that constantly challenges you is the only way to work. I have found my true calling a and can't wait for whatever changes are ahead. 

I hope whoever reads this can be inspired to break out of the ruts and routines. Make yourself uncomfortable and see where it leads you. You may like the results. 

C

Why I do what I do

These are my girls. Emily just turned 10 yesterday. It's crazy to think about how time flies. It seems like yesterday I was teaching her to ride a bike. Now, she's growing up and likes to listen to music and plays soccer. I am a proud dad for sure. She has turned into quite a girl. She does an amazing job taking care of her lil sister, Keaghan. 

Being a single dad is tough. Trying to do what's right and help moms the kids with only a few days at a time. I don't know if I'm doing it right, but I'm trying either way. I'm just happy I can provide for them and make sure they always know that their dad is here and always will be. As much as I hate seeing them grow up, I'm excited to watch them learn and become amazing young ladies

Why I Write

Every once in awhile, I get asked why I write blogs. I mean, I don't know who reads these things, or if I entertain anyone. I guess I have a busy mind and not enough people to share it with. I like to think a lot, well reflect really, about daily life and the ups and downs that go with it all. I Try and stay positive thru it all, but it gets tough sometimes. 

I never thought I'd be 37 and single. It wasn't in my life plan, but who can really map out their life. I sure as hell wouldn't be able to predict I'd be here. The funny part is that each experience, weather good or bad, has shaped me and turned me into the man I am. No one would blame me for being protective and shut off to others, but that's not me. I believe in being open. I can take being hurt and disappointed, it's just part of life. I can only hope that being genuine and honest with people will show that I'm a good man, and have the best of intentions. 

Why say all this? I really don't know. I guess maybe someone will find this and maybe give them insight into who I am. I have nothing to hide, nor do I care what people think. I'll be damned if I'm gonna live my life to please others. I'm gonna live my life to please me. I'm gonna take chances, put myself in exciting and challenging situations. Why dream about all these things when you can live them. This goes for everyone else. If there's something you wanna do. Why wait? Go do it and live your life to the fullest

C

A Hint of A Memory

It's funny how you see something, rather on TV or just for a drive and it brings back a memory. I got home from work today and sat down to relax. I see the Golden Gate Bridge on the TV and my mind begins to roll back thru my long list of memories. Being in San Francisco and seeing it in person, walking thru the streets, and seeing the box cars that are part of the city's famous landscape.

Why do I bring this up??? I like to reflect a lot. On what I have done and where I have been. I'm not blinded from the mistakes that I've made, nor glorifying the great things I have accomplished. All this life has shown me so far is that without turmoil, one can never truly appreciate triumph. Why did we make the decisions that we made. Looking back knowing how wrong they were, yet not able to see it when the time comes. Our internal make up , what makes us tick, is forged from our parents, and other outside influences.

See how one memory makes you start thinking about 100 different things. I can't help it. I try to tell people, that my mind runs 90 mph, and it goes all over the map. I feel that I am a smart and calculated person. I like to plan what I am going to say, just to avoid the off chance of saying the wrong thing. Why do this?? Because different people will take things different ways and what is funny to one, will be offended by others. Some people think it makes me sound non-genuine, but I disagree. I am myself, and live an open book kind of life. I will share my life and my stories to anyone who asks. I just know that this world is full of sensitive people, and you have to be careful about what you say.

I really don't have an ending for this post today, it was just some random thoughts that popped up. Maybe someone will read this and understand me a little better. All I know is that I am living my life the best way I know how, and that's all that matters

C

Big Changes!!!!

For starters, I just can't believe I quite writing. Seems like it's been forever and since I can see the date of my last post, It has been over 2 years. There is so much that has happened, but who wants to hear about all of that. I will, at the very least, explain what all these big changes were. For starters, I am now single again. I've been divorced for almost 2 years now. Crazy as it sounds, sometimes you just have to walk away to truly see that you are much better off.

With all the changes of getting out of the Marines and getting married, I had lost myself. I quit doing all the things that made me feel whole. Now that I am by myself, I can focus on the things that fill that void. Nothing can ever give me the time I have missed with the kids. I miss them every single day. Taking them to their mom's house after a weekend, can sure make me sad, but its all I can do.

My new approach to this blog will be focusing on the struggles and triumphs of being a single dad, and what things we can all learn from it. I hope to also bring some funny stories of day to day life as I try to navigate thru this crazy dating world. What is it like trying to date in your 30's?? We will find out. How do you handle dating with the kids, and when is it the right time for them to meet someone? These are all questions I have to figure out, and hope its the right one.

For those who may be worried about me..... Fear not!!  I am alive and well, loving and living. I am making my own little dent on this world, and I won't stop. So you better hitch on this ride, cause we are only going up from here.

More to come in the near future.  Also check out my other blog as it goes thru my trek back to fitness paradise and an overall healthier lifestyle

the RESURRECTEDone.BlogSpot.com

C

Oops. Time For A New Blog

I started my blog with the sole emphasis of digging into the mind of a dad who had 2 kids and a wife. Although that was the start, I found myself writing about all kinds of random things. From getting a new gun, to talking about working out. I'm sure both things are something new dads can relate too. One day I woke up and realized I am 34 and needed more of a purpose. The next thing I knew, I was embarked on a journey to becoming and adventure athlete. What I am starting to notice is that my dad blog is veering away from being a dad, and more about fitness and my quest.(There are also quite a few rants thrown in there) With that being said, I decided to start a new blog for that part of my journey. I will continue to post here and write about everyday life and the lessons I am learning watching 2 girls grow up. But there will be a new one to allow my followers to see what I am doing in the fitness world. If I can somehow inspire a new or old dad to step outside and start getting in better shape, then mission accomplished. Check out the new blog at the address below

theRESURRECTEDone.blogspot.com

The World of Business

Now before I start, I gotta write a disclosure. I do not have a BA in business, so my experiences of what I am about to talk about are based off of the world of business I have been in the past 16 years. With that in mind, let me dive into the topic of the day.

Shady Business Practices.

Yep, that's right!!! I recently viewed even more acts of shadiness that I refuse to be a part of. In my company, we sell oilfield products. Now somewhere, one of the owners learned that the more reps you have out there the better it is. Not to mention the fact that they step on each others toes. These same reps come in with all these thoughts of selling millions of dollars a year, but usually fizzle out quickly. Now, as of today, we have 4 reps that actually stock our items on consignment. The reason for this, is to cut down on the overall shipping costs to those areas. We have reps in Colorado, West Virginia, Central Texas, and Louisiana. Being an Operations Manager, I am in charge of keeping up with the inventory levels of these locations. A difficult task as it is, its even worse when you have certain ones who don't keep good records, and don't like to respond to emails or requests for transfers. I have 2 great reps that are on top of everything and very thorough. One in Colorado, and the other in LA. Now I find out that the owner is going to head to LA today to meet with some potential customers. WTF!!! How can you go around your rep and cut him out like that. The LA area is his area, why would you go poach from him. All you are doing is setting him up for failure. And of all the reps, this one is one of the best. It makes me sick to my stomach, and I just can't stand it. These people see dollar signs and will step on whomever to see more of them. You can't have it both ways. One day he is going to get exposed for what he is, and have no business left.

I'm at a point where I am ready to leave all this behind. I wanna go somewhere else that will actually take good care of the people who make them money. People will get what is coming to them. You lean on everyone for what they can do to you and when you screw them over, you will be left standing alone. Broke!!

This is Chris with Complaining News. That is all